Shaylene King Speaking Info | Shaylene King Motivational anti bullying speaker

Shaylene teaches and trains hundreds of students every year across the country the nationally recognized anti-bully program called Safe School Ambassadors. She is also the founder of The Mean Girl Extinction Project. Her acute experience with relational aggression as an anti-bully activist provides unique perspective into girl world. She teaches girls how to not only survive girl world but to make a difference and thrive in it. Shaylene empowers girls through assemblies, workshops, camps, clubs and service projects to live with profound purpose when they learn to combat mean and cultivate kindness.

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About Shaylene

Shaylene King is an author, educator and anti-bullying activist.
Shaylene’s battle with poor body image and low self-esteem led to destructive behavior and poor grades until a teacher stepped in and told her she could be anything she wanted to be with an education. She earned her Bachelors of Arts degree in Liberal Studies as well as her teaching credential from California Baptist University in Riverside, California.

Knowing first-hand the impact teachers can make, Shaylene became one! She has taught in public and private schools. Trained in Discrete Trial method for autism, she also collaborated with Behavioral Specialists to implement home programs.

Passionate about helping girls navigate issues related to self-esteem and body image, Shaylene has mentored girls for over twenty years. She is the Founder of The Mean Girl Extinction Project, a non-profit created with her teen daughter to combat the “mean girl” phenomenon. Shaylene also piloted an after school Kind club for fifth grade girls to build healthy friendships reducing incidents of relational aggression in their social circles.
She is the author of a tween series for girls. The first book in the series, Liberty Lane and the One-Girl Rebelution will be released late Winter of 2020. She speaks at schools, girl camps, clubs, youth groups, girl/women events and organizations.

Knowing positive change takes place through positive relationships, Shaylene is also an independent contractor for the non-profit Community Matters. As a trainer for their nationally recognized Safe School Ambassador program, she continues to speak to hundreds of students each year across the country to empower and equip them with tools needed to develop self-confidence and practice and promote positive communication with their peers. Shaylene is also one of the founders of CollaborateEdu, a team of education thought leaders & experienced practitioners that deliver evidenced-based trainings on creating safe & thriving school climates. We provide support to education professionals that are seeking to sharpen & repurpose their craft through self-care, student-care & school-care.

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Combat Mean Event: Finding Kind Documentary

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What People Are Sayingg About Shaylene

"I have known Shaylene King for many years and in many capacities. I first met Shaylene as a summer staff counselor at our camp. Even as a young woman Shaylene distinguished herself by her tender compassion for young people while possessing of vision for equipping them with words of hope, encouragement and truth. She also, collaborated to create an outreach ministry for high school and college aged young women called REFLECTIONS. In more recent years she has trained our staff to recognize bullying and other relational issues so that they can be addressed quickly and appropriately. Shaylene’s determination to reach the next generation with a message that everyone deserves the right to be heard, valued and respected is making a tremendous difference in our community. Her message is one that young people need to hear and are longing to hear."

Dawn Gould

Director of Women's Ministries

Mt. Gilead Bible Camp

Sebastopol, CA

"Shaylene has a passion for creating positive self image, compassion and understanding within our youth. As a Safe School Ambassador presenter, Shaylene was quickly able to break down teenage walls and get students to really talk about their feelings and what's happening in the world around them. Even more impressive was Shaylene's ability to get those same teenagers to ACT on those feelings and the instances of kindness they witness on a daily basis. Shaylene was relatable, positive and helped to foster a feeling of inclusion, self worth and 'do the right thing' on campus."

Shannyn Vehmeyer

Principal

Windsor Middle School

"The Safe School Ambassador program is one of our school's highlights. Ms. King trained our students and staff with the kind enthusiasm and honesty that allowed participants to engage with peers effectively while taking personal risks. It was a beneficial experience all the way around."

Julie Forest

Middle School Teacher

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Frequently Requested Topics

The Mean Girl Extinction Project

All my topics are created to meet public school/event regulations. For each topic, I have a faith based version as well for private schools, churches, chapels, retreats and seminars.

Safe School Ambassadors

SSA is one of the top anti-bully programs in the nation. I believe in this program so much, I quit my full time teaching job (at the end of the school year of course) to teach and train this program in schools across the country! The Safe School Ambassadors program relies on social norms change and the power of students to help stop bullying and violence. The program harnesses the power of the socially-influential leaders, the ones who shape the social norms that govern other students' behavior. These "alpha" leaders are carefully identified through student and staff surveys. They are selected based upon specific criteria, such as: strong position and influence in their peer group, good communication skills, and a history of standing up for friends. The recruited students participate in a two-day interactive training along with several adults who serve as program mentors. The training gives student Ambassadors the motivation and skills to resolve conflicts, defuse incidents, and support isolated and excluded students. After the training, small group meetings of Ambassadors are held every few weeks. These meetings, led by the adult mentors, provide time for strengthening skills, support data collection and analysis of Ambassador interventions, and help sustain student and adult commitment to the program. If you would like more information, please click the attached link. Safe School Ambassadors. If you think your school doesn’t have the funding for programs like this, they offer a tool kit to help you find funding.

RELATIONAL AGGRESSION

In girl world, it can often feel like hate divides us, mean reigns supreme and competition can be cruel. I tackle the issue of relational aggression (using relationships as a weapon to harm) among girls in a fun but meaningful way. Through an engaging and interactive program your group will:

Learn how to recognize relational aggression (mean girl behavior) among their peers.
Understand what role they play in their friendships.
Identify their individual insecurities that may trigger mean girl behavior.
Discover how to resolve conflict with other girls.
Learn how to cultivate kindness in a mean girl world.
Be challenged to put to practice what they have learned through fun interactive activities.
Take Combat Mean pledge.
Leave with a bag of swag.